I wanted to share this with you all because it helped me identify some of my weak spots which was important to my daily growth journey. I knew I couldn’t keep this gem to myself so here we are.
A couple of months ago I went to pick up a few books while thrifting and I came across The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren. It had been recommended to me in the past so I knew it was too sweet of a deal to pass up for $1.99. Of course I bought it. While reading the first Chapter, I was thinking “okay, I can definitely follow along this Spiritual and Mental Journey for 40 days” but the more I began to read it, the more interesting it became. And then Day 3 happened. I was forced to look myself in the mirror while reading this particular Chapter. Chapter 3 spoke so much life to me because a lot of it described my flaws to a T. After reading this I had to share with my close friends and I figured, No Boiz Allowed is amongst the circle I call “friends” as well so here we are.
DAY 3 : What Drives Your Life?
Everyone’s life is driven by something.
Right now you may be driven by a problem, a pressure, or a deadline. You may be driven by a painful memory, a haunting fear, or an unconscious belief. There are hundreds of circumstances, values and emotions that can drive your life. Here are 5 of the most common ones.
MANY PEOPLE ARE DRIVEN BY GUILT. They spend their entire lives running from regrets and hiding their shame. Guilt-driven people are manipulated by memories. They allow their past to control their future. They often unconsciously punish themselves by sabotaging their own success…
We are products of our past, but we don’t have to be prisoners of it. God’s purpose is not limited by your past… God specializes in giving people a fresh start.
MANY PEOPLE ARE DRIVEN BY RESENTMENT AND ANGER. They hold on to hurts and never get over them. Instead of releasing their pain through forgiveness, they rehearse it over and over in their minds. Some resentment-driven people “clam up” and internalize their anger, while others “blow up” and explode it onto others. Both responses are unhealthy unhelpful… Resentment always hurts you more than it does the person you resent. While your offender has probably forgotten the offense and gone on with life, you continue to stew in your pain, perpetuating the past.
LISTEN: Those who have hurt you in the past cannot continue to hurt you now unless you hold on to the pain through resentment. Your past is your past! Nothing will change it. You are only hurting yourself with your bitterness. For your own sake, learn from it, and then let it go.
MANY PEOPLE ARE DRIVEN BY FEAR. Their fears may be a result of a traumatic experience, unrealistic expectations, growing up in a high-control home, or even genetic predisposition. Regardless of the cause, fear-driven people often miss great opportunities because they’re afraid to venture out. Instead they play it safe, avoiding risks and trying to maintain the status quo.
Fear is a self-imposed prison that will keep you from becoming what God intends for you to be.
MANY PEOPLE ARE DRVIEN BY MATERIALISM. Their desire to acquire becomes the whole goal of their lives. This drive to always want more is based on the misconceptions that having more will make me more happy, more important, and more secure, but all three ideas are untrue. Possessions only provide temporary happiness. Because things do not change, we eventually become bored with them and then want newer, bigger, better versions.
It’s also a myth that if I get more, I will be more important. Self-worth and net worth are not the same. Your value is not determined by your valuables, and God says the most valuable things in life are not things!
MANY PEOPLE ARE DRIVEN BY THE NEED FOR APPROVAL. They allow the expectations of parents or spouses or children or teachers or friends to control their lives. Many adults are still trying to earn the approval of unpleasable parents. Others are driven by peer pressure, always worried by what others might think. Unfortunately, those who follow the crowd usually get lost in it. I don’t know all the keys to success, but one key to failure is to try to please everyone. Being controlled by the opinions of others is a guaranteed way to miss God’s purposes for your life.