I recently acknowledged the gap of where I am and where I want to be. The missing piece of the puzzle was balance. As a Libra, I know how important balance is for me so these past few weeks I have been focused on specific areas in my life in order to grow and maximize my full potential. Of course I wanted to share with you all because I feel that no one person is ever growing through life alone. If it’s helping me, I hope to be of some help to others.
As I did a little research on balance, I noticed that every article and book generally focused on the 7 areas of one’s life. During my research I came across a free ebook here titled “What Do You Want To Do With Your Life?”. Although I’m not quite finished with the workbook, reading it forced me to analyze myself which in return inspired me to write this post. In the beginning of the book, it makes you list the 7 areas of life (see the pyramid above) and score each area 1-10 with 10 being the highest. I graded myself and I can’t say I was surprised with what I saw because I clearly knew where I stood mentally, spiritually, financially, career wise, etc. but I will say it was an eye opener to witness it on paper and compare my Career score to my Relationships (friends, family, social) score. It was dreadful to compare my Financial score to my Spiritual score. And so on. So I knew there was work to be done.
I wrote down my personal physical goals, inspirational quotes and things or people that motivate me in this area.
Well-being: maximum wellness; Nutrition: maximising or maintaining adequate and quality eating habits; Moderation: integrating extremes of sensation or action; Building strength and tone: exercising and stretching muscles; Vitality: building endurance and stamina, keeping dynamically active; Maintaining Beauty/handsome attraction: clean, neat, well presented or dressed and tidy; Self-indulgent gratification of physical desires: enjoying food, sex, leisure, etc.; Seeking daring adventures: taking risks; Esthetics: appreciating the beauty of nature and the arts; Ecology: protecting the environment, preserving nature Independence: freedom of action, spontaneous action, freedom to travel the world; Variety: a life filled with challenge, novelty and change.
EMOTIONS & MEANING:
I made a list of my values, my happiness triggers (people, places, activities and entertainment that add to my happiness) and vowed to make use of those areas daily.
Wisdom: understanding the laws of the universe – a mature understanding of my life; Inquisitive curiosity: interested in everything, exploring – loving to read and learn; Intelligent thinking: reasoning and analyzing logically; Intuition: thinking/feeling spontaneously and instinctively; Discernment: making choices and decisions; Associating or disassociating: attaching or detaching freely; Prioritising and planning: self-discipline, self-restraint, resistance to temptation; Imagination: creative and unique thinking; Development:increasing mentual acuity Actualization: awakening my genius within; Broad-minded: open to different ideas and beliefs; Adventure: seeking stimulating experiences, having a mentally exciting life.
I made a list of people in my life who I want to keep, let go of and those I want to build stronger connections with (business/personal).
Attention: spending time, connecting, or interacting with family members; Fulfillment: setting realistic expectations with relationships, breaking fantasies and myths; Clear communication: dissolving judgements and communication in terms of values; Intimacy: mature sharing of love, including sexually; Resolution: managing conflict with family of origin or family of choice; Caring: meeting the needs of others; Providing: creating a quality home/nest for family members; Security: safety for loved ones; Respect: honouring parents, elders, and others; Inspiring: encouraging children to achieve their own path of full potential; Educating: helping children to expand their opportunities; Adventure: travelling on vacations and exploring with loved ones.
TIME & PRODUCTIVITY:
(working on it) but I make time for things that are important to me, spend less time on social media, say no to distractions and create a daily to-do list.
Leadership: leading or commanding others toward or to a worthy cause; Power: desiring prominence, authority, control, or influence over others and events; Recognition: respect, approval by others – maintaining public image; Order: initiating transformation – raising socioeconomic standards and stability; Contribution: working for the welfare of humankind; Equality: equal opportunity for all; Belong: feeling that others care about me; Security: protection from self or enemy; Justice: upholding ethical and legal principles, righting perceived injustices; Respect: honouring right to dignity, independence or privacy, polite manners, courtesy; Friendship: shared loyalty to and empathy for friends or group; Tradition: preservation of time-honoured customs.
CAREER & MISSION:
I mapped out my dream career, goals and side gigs that I want to spend more time on. I also wrote down things to do daily to get me closer to my dream career.
Inspirational: serving a higher purpose or calling; Self-direction: choosing my own goals, doing what I love, actualizing my own career dreams; Independence: self-reliant, self-sufficient; Ambition: high achievement, aspiring and hardworking; Leadership; inspiring others to greater productivity; Growth: attracting a greater quality and quantity of clients/customers/ attendees/patients; Quality: providing greater service to clients; Excellence: mastering the skills of my profession, pursuing excellence, being #1; Accountability: embracing consequences for decisions and actions; Competence: being more capable, efficient, and effective in my business Professionalism: adhering to behavioural and appearance guidelines; Responsible: obedient, dutiful, meeting obligations, dependable, reliable.
I pulled my credit history, credit score, tracked my spending, compared my assets to my liabilities and signed up for a Women and Money Class. I also wrote down my financial goals and plan to open another savings account within the next two weeks.
Perspective: appreciating the importance of money and valuing what it offers humanity; ingenuity: searching for creative ways and means to serve and make money; Prudence: making deals, creative financial negotiations, shopping for bargains; Balance: maintaining fair exchange, reciprocity, non-indebtedness; Security: saving money, investing; Development: building self-worth and self-respect; Savvy: balancing emotions to more effectively and consistenly manage money; Acumen: managing, budgeting or spending money, energy, and resources wisely; Growth: building wealth/net worth, amassing a fortune and material possessions; Taking chances: calculating and taking risks, speculating; Protection: preserving wealth; Contribution: philanthropy, charity.
I promised myself to pray more, meditate and feed on my faith.
Connection: experiencing my soul or God; Reflection: going inside myself, listening to my inner voice, seeing my inner vision; Integrity:knowing and living my higher spiritual values; Integrity: having a sense of balance, and inner harmony within myself; Discernment: seeing a hight order regardless of the apparent disorder of outer peace and war; Inspiration: Feeling a sense of meaningful purpose; Identification: living from my spiritually vital core, being more spiritually than materially focused; Authenticity: being genuine and truthfully honest with myself; Surrender: Modestly submitting or humbling myself to the grand divine design and order; Unity: fitting into nature, feeling part of the whole; Devotion: holding to religious faith and belief; Personal responsibility: rising above judgement and beyond pardon or forgiveness
Reading the workbook and completing every exercise per chapter has allowed me to be completely honest with myself. I set aside time and ignore distractions weekly to get it done because balance is that important to me. Once I witnessed the areas in my life with the lowest scores aka the weakest links, I focused on how I can progress in those specific areas until they each match up to my highest score. Once each area in life matches up to my highest score, the goal will be to expand each one even greater.
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