We are three weeks away from ringing in the new year and while many of us are anticipating what to wear on New Years Eve, brainstorming over our New Years Resolutions and putting together our Vision Boards, there is one thing a lot of us forget to do in the process. We forget to leave some things behind before we step into the New Year. My question to you is, how do you expect to have an even better year, a new attitude and a new you if your mind frame as well as your actions don’t change? Just think about it. New Year, Same girl. Nothing changes except the year.
During our #GirlBoss twitter chat which took place this Sunday, I posed the question to the participants…
WHAT SHOULD EVERY #GIRLBOSS LEAVE BEHIND IN 2014?
and their responses were very similar to one another with the exception of a few…
Negativity in every form; people, places, things and thoughts. #DeadThat – @SuperWomanBrand
Jealousy and envy coming from their enemies Lol. Seriously though…the fear of failure. The fear of not fitting in, the fear of looking a certain way to society. – @Yasmeen_Sincere
Lose this fear of rejection. That’s a really expensive fear to have. – @DJKellyJ
Doubt and guilt. Just because it failed (business/relationships) doesn`t mean its the end. - @BrownSugarLX
Leave that ‘fearful’ outlook on life + achieving your goals in 2014, it’s about time we put in those big girl panties. – @MsCareyLee
The negativity, the doubts, the fears. But don’t forget it. Use that to fuel your fight and hunger to achieve your goals. – @msmorning0711
I believe in practicing new habits daily not just yearly. However, leave negative energy & the fear of failure behind. – @katzwndrland
Negativity in all forms. Negative people, negative things, negative ideals, negative thoughts and negative mindsets.Leave behind everything that didn’t help you grow to your fullest potential. Leave behind fear! – @miss_aqt
While their list is awesome, I will take on the role of the bad girl and list some things that you probably think is okay but in the end is self limiting. And what I mean by that is that these things are causing you to stunt your own growth.
EX BOYFRIENDS – They are your ex for a reason. Have you ever heard the saying “It’s called a break-up because it is broken.” Chances are, if you didn’t work it out the last three times, then you are probably wasting your time. Give yourself time to be single, enjoy your freedom, date yourself for awhile so you can learn new things and figure out who you are and what you like. Date outside of your comfort zone. Leave those exes in 2014.
DRAMA FILLED FRIENDS – He said, she said never got anyone far in life. People that are constantly calling you with drama really aren’t your friends. They just don’t want to experience the level of drama alone so they call you up and gossip or drain the little bit of energy you barely have left from a hectic day. Who wants to live in misery and negativity all of the time? I sure don’t. Bye Felicia.
MEDIOCRE THINKING – Okay listen. It’s okay to be realistic but think above and beyond your circumstances. The one thing that we fail to realize as we are growing through something is that, trouble doesn’t last always and as long as you are down, there’s only one way to go and that is up. Stop limiting yourself and start to think big(ger). The bigger you think, the more work you put in and hard work breeds reward. Think big. Live big.
COMFORTABILITY – Nothing ever grows from a comfort zone. Have you ever noticed that time keeps passing you by and you’re bored doing the same things over again with no desire for anything new. You don’t want to try anything because you’re afraid of losing your job or missing something. But the truth is, because you are not taking risks and instead you are playing it safe, you are missing out on a world of opportunities. When you look up, you will be in the same exact place as you have been these past few years. Wake up.
TORN PANTIES – Now this is just the rule that I grew up obeying. I typically go through my panty drawer every few months to get rid of worn/torn panties. But it’s a big no-no to ring in the new year with a collection of see thru panties and I’m not talking about the ones that were made that way. (wink). Perhaps you should put that on your secret santa list.
THE JOB YOU ABSOLUTELY HATE – This is a no brainer yet it’s something that is a constant reminder, for myself even. Money is good but you weren’t born to just pay bills and die. If you, like most of us don’t have the guts to just dive head first into the unknown, pick up a trade or a side hustle doing something you’re curious about learning or something that you absolutely love doing. Over time, pick up more work in that field and began to build a resume’ based off of your experience. In no time, you will love your new career and I would love for you to come back and tell us all about it.
CLUTTER - C’mon girl! For obvious reasons, clutter must go. Now I know everyone isn’t like me but it doesn’t hurt to mention. I like to declutter my room, closet and paperwork about once every 6 months. There is just something so peaceful about simplicity. The less stuff you have, the less you have to worry about. Besides, what is the point of owning everything if one, you never use it, and for two, you have so many things you can never find it. Clean up and clean out. You won’t miss it.
WHAT ARE SOME ITEMS ON YOUR LIST THAT WILL NOT MAKE IT INTO 2014?