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“I don’t need a friend, I need someone who wants to see me win.” Why Accountability Partners Are Necessary!

WHY YOU WANT AN ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNER?

SO YOU CAN BLAME SOMEONE OTHER THAN YOURSELF

WHY YOU NEED AN ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNER?

TO REMIND YOU OF WHY YOU STARTED IN THE FIRST PLACE

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Definition of ACCOUNTABILITY 

:the quality or state of being accountable especially an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one’s actions

In our world, we want an accountability partner so we can share responsibility and on black and white, that’s exactly what it means. When things don’t go according to plan, we have someone else to point the finger at. But the truth of the matter is, we need accountability partners to keep us on our A-game. The role of an accountability partner isn’t for everyone and here is why. There was a time or two that you and your friends made a pact to workout x amount of days in the gym and you would hold each other accountable. But all it took was for one of you to say “I don’t feel like it today” “I’m tired” “I’m busy” “Let’s get back into it on Monday” – and the rest followed suit. Time went by and next thing you know, the whole group fell off, summer came and not one was bikini ready. Don’t worry, I’ve been that girl on countless occasions too.

The rule of thumb is to find an accountability partner who isn’t your friend. And if (s)he is your friend, make sure they are responsible, dependable and not a yes friend. Someone who isn’t afraid of telling you when you’ve fallen short and someone who will be there to celebrate you when you win. In my experiences with accountability partners, most are afraid of being honest with you. We tend to shy away from telling others the truth as opposed to making them happy but the truth is if they stuck with their goals long enough to see results, happiness isn’t too far behind. So the next time you promote someone to the role of “Accountability Partner”, look them in their eyes and tell them “don’t be my friend, help me win.”

Do you have an accountability partner? If so, what are some things you all do to stay on track with achieving your end goal?

 

Hello October – Date Yourself Challenge

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New month, new goals. Have you ever wondered what it would be like to receive flowers at work? Go to see that new movie but you never have anyone to go with? Why wait on others to be happy? Why not do it yourself? After all, it begins with you. Self love is the first step to loving anyone else. This challenge is for any and everyone but not all of you will take it because you don’t want to hold yourselves accountable to putting YOU first.

If you are about the power of YOU.. keep reading.

The mission of this challenge is to challenge yourself to put yourself first. You will come across many temptations along the way but if we can practice saying no, and mean it, if we can pay ourselves first, if we can encourage ourselves like we big up others, we will be well on our way to a happier life.

If you would love to find out the complete rules and timeline of this challenge, feel free to leave your email below. We do not like receiving spam so we will not send you any.

Happy October.

I Saw Keke Palmer Star In Cinderella On Broadway Opening Week – My Experience

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My girls and I planned a super fun, entertaining and busy vacation for my BFF’s birthday. We decided to spend a day/night in Philadelphia, three days/two nights in New York and one day in Atlantic City. Mission accomplished. Now not everything went 100% as planned but thanks to proper planning, great organizing, back up plans, budgeting and cool friends who can roll with the punches, it all transitioned smoothly. Leading up to this trip, we each had one assignment. That assignment was for us each to make a list of the one thing you absolutely wanted to do while in NYC. We all put our #1 thing on the list. The list included, walk the BK bridge, visit an African American History Museum, eat at Sylvias in Harlem, see the Statue of Liberty.

Now growing up as a little girl, I’ve always had big dreams of living in New York City. I was head over heels into fashion and I just knew my dreams would come true if I moved there. Once I grew up those dreams changed. The week of our trip, Monday to be exact, a friend of mine overheard the radio station discussing Keke Palmer playing the first ever black Cinderella on Broadway. She immediately jumped in the group chat and told us about it. We were soooo ecstatic that this could be our opportunity to not only witness a Broadway Play LIVE but to be apart of history. Opening week was to be talked about and we all love Keke Palmer so it was no-brainer. We were all scheduled to fly out in 2 days and be in New York in 3. We made arrangements to purchase a ticket, rearranged a few things on our itinerary and made it happen.

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The day of the show we were soooo excited. We all got dressed, experienced our first taxi cab ride in NY and headed to Broadway to see Keke Palmer in Cinderella. We attempted to purchase snacks and wine at the concession stand but thanks to those triple threat prices, we kindly passed and thanked God for the food we ate before we left the hotel room. LOL. We called our families and told them what we were witnessing, we took lots of pictures and we found our seats. The way the theater is set up, no matter what seat you pay for, you will have a great view. We were seated in the front row of the 3rd section which was still perfect for us considering it was our first show. Lights dimmed and music shouted. Keke came running out and we all shouted and clapped. She smiled and the show began.

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The experience was nothing less than amazing. Not only Keke Palmer but EVERY actor/actress on that stage did so great. They sung and danced their hearts out and left all of their fears behind the curtains. Production was that in which you see in a movie. There was a lot of magic happening on stage that I’m still unsure of how it happened before my eyes but it made for great discussions. Watching the Cinderella story live took me through every emotion possible. From smiling, to laughing to crying to singing and even dreaming. A standing ovation was granted at the end and all I could do was instantly become inspired. This play left me feeling speechless. Now I can’t leave this post without giving you all a couple of pointers if you do decide to check out a Broadway play…

1. Eat and Drink before or have plans to eat/drink after the show. The small can of pringles will run you $5. A small cup of wine will start at $12 and go up from there.
2. Arrive a little early so you can find your seats and use the restroom if needed. Our show was scheduled for 8pm and begun at 8:07pm
3. Bring a light sweater or cover-up. ALL theaters do not believe in heating systems lol. It gets cold!
4. Stretch during intermission. There will be a 15 min. break in between the first half and the second. Use this time wisely to use the bathroom, stretch and use your cell phone.
5. Speaking of cell phones, you cannot use them during the show (for obvious reasons). No picture snapping, no texting, etc. Well you can, just don’t get caught. Dim your lighting on your screen and do your thing. But I would much rather you actually enjoy the show and get your money worth. It’s worth every penny.

Bucket List Item Crossed off!

Have you ever been to a Broadway Show? Is this on your bucket list?

Cheap Chicks – Babes On A Budget

As an active supporter of Black and Sexy TV on Youtube, I caught up over the weekend on episodes that I’ve missed. Luckily I made it in time to tune into their new series, Cheap Chicks. A series of DIY’s for Babes On A Budget. I loved the concept because I, too am a babe on a budget. As I watched, I loved the humor as well as the information and plan to try some of these tips out myself. Take a look for yourself and tell us how you like episode 1.

Enjoy.

The Meaning Behind Kerry Washington’s Purple Purse

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Just in time for Domestic Violence Awareness Month (October), Kerry Washington serves as the Campaign Spokeswoman for the Allstate Foundation’s initiative called the “Purple Purse” Program to raise awareness domestic violence and financial abuse. More often times than not, when you hear domestic violence, you think of physical abuse. As common as it is, all forms of domestic abuse should be brought to light and with Kerry’s platform, she hopes to raise awareness to the economic side of things. The purple purse, she explains, is a metaphor. Purple is the color of domestic violence awareness, and — as Olivia Pope would know — the purse is the source of a woman’s power.

“One in four women will be a victim of domestic violence,” Kerry says in a PSA for the organization. “Finances are almost always a weapon of choice. Taking away access to cash, destroying credit, jeopardizing jobs; financial abuse leaves invisible bruises that can take decades to heal.”

Only 500 will be made: some will be given to celebrities to carry on the red carpet to draw attention to the issue, some sold as fundraisers and others gifted to domestic abuse survivors. We love Kerry for being brave enough to bring awareness by telling herstory. She is truly a survivor.

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