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Thanksgiving Ideas For The Single Woman

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Thanksgiving is days away and some of us are either too busy working to go home, couldn’t afford to or simply didn’t have a “home” to go to. Although it can bring up different emotions out of you, a common reminder around the holidays is the “I’m single” reminder. Yes, holidays such as Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years and Valentine’s Day are huge reminders that there is no “bae” in our lives. Depending on how your most recent relationship ended, now is not the time to sit around and feel sorry for yourself or your situation. I have been alone during the holidays on many occasions. Sometimes it was by choice and other times it wasn’t. I will admit, it is sometimes difficult to deal with but I have found several ways to make the best out of it.

Now when I say I am alone, this means no family around, no boyfriend or husband, no children and no pets. That pretty much qualifies me as the most single type of woman ever. Don’t feel sorry for me. I’m smiling. (wink). So as you can imagine, I’m pretty much experienced in this area. However, the holiday time off from my job has allowed me to have a little more control over my days and that for me is a big deal. Thanks to my expert like skills in “alone for the holidays syndrome” I have come up with ways that you too can enjoy this Thanksgiving, single and all.

VOLUNTEER

– Spending time at a shelter or food bank will instantly pick up your spirits and force you to forget all that you are going through. You are put in the position to express love as well as receive love. The individuals that you serve are usually so full of life despite their circumstances. Not only is it a humbling experience but it is one that I encourage each of you to try. Find a shelter and/or food bank immediately and ask how you can volunteer. Volunteer positions fill up quickly and are usually filled on a first come, first serve basis. I have volunteered in the past and will be doing so again this year.

HANG OUT WITH FRIENDS

– If you feel that you weren’t lucky enough to get invited over for Thanksgiving dinner at any of your friends house, it just might be up to you to do the inviting. Reach out to your friends and associates and first ask if they are up to anything for Thanksgiving. Sometimes those we are around often simply do not know whether we have plans or not. By you reaching out to them, that in return could possibly lead to you receiving an invite. If that is the case, there just may be a single, handsome guy there alone as well. Hint. On the other hand, if any of them say no, invite them over for either a traditional style dinner, a movie night or put together plans to dine out. Two is sometimes better than none.

TAKE YOURSELF OUT

– You know that bucket list you’ve been dying to check off? What are you waiting for? Now is the perfect time for you to go over that list and put your plans in motion. Nothing motivates me more than to check things off of my list. Whether it’s dining alone, going to the movies, signing up for a dance class, booking a solo trip, there’s no excuse this time. Just do it.

PICK UP A SEASONAL JOB

– Last year, I put together a list of things I wanted to accomplish in 2014. Looking at the list, I planned a budget of how much additional money I would need. I also knew one of the quickest ways to make the extra money was to get a seasonal job. One of the sacrifices of having a second job would be missing the opportunity to go home during the holidays. Since this time of the year is the busiest thanks to black friday and unlimited Christmas sales, picking up a seasonal job wouldn’t be hard at all. I was happy to have extra money in my pocket and even happier reaching my early year goals.

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All in all, Thanksgiving should be a time of gathering, love and gratitude. Although it is easier said than done, doing something about it is an even greater reward. No matter how you choose to spend the day, find some time to make the best of it.

WHAT ARE SOME WAYS YOU HAVE SPENT THE HOLIDAYS ALONE?
WHAT ARE YOUR PLANS FOR THANKSGIVING?

RELATIONSHIPS || A Creative Idea For Date Night

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Over the course of a year, I have been so closed off to dating that I must admit, I forgot how to. So when a guy whom I actually took interest in asked me out on a date, I was hesitant but agreed to it. The first date was planned by him, which in my book is a plus because I haven’t come across too many men that know how to plan great dates. It wasn’t anything too serious nor boring. It was light but also intriguing which allowed us time and space to talk and interact as two people interested in one another should. By the end of the day we agreed to a second date. And as some of you may guess, the second date was my date. My date meaning I had to plan it. Now I’m a romantic and a free spirit so when it came down to planning this date, I was all in.

The Envelope Idea is something I have been wanting to do for a very long time. I have always imagined surprising my next boyfriend with this idea but you see, the way my goals are set up, having a boyfriend just hasn’t been in my deck of cards nor has it been anything I’ve taken seriously as of late. So I gave myself the pep talk and filled my head up with a little bit of courage and decided to use my idea for my upcoming second date because who knew when I would have a boyfriend again? I sure didn’t. Thanks to a successful first date and several telephone conversations yes, people still talk on the phone and text messages, I was able to find out everything I needed and wanted to know about this guy. From his short term goals to what his allergies are, I took notes. No, really, I did.

I made a list of all of his interests and begin to brainstorm. I did a little research of key locations around my city and came up with three amazing dates. When I say amazing, I mean so good that he probably would have dropped down on one knee amazing. Okay okay, maybe not that great but as good as second date good gets and more. Each envelope had a completely different date option included. Each date was carefully planned with time, day and weather in mind. Randomly texting him questions during the planning process was hilarious but luckily he had no idea what I was up to. I must admit, the best moment of it all was him actually having to choose between envelopes 1, 2 and 3. After he made his choice, he was curious to see what was inside of the other two envelopes. And since I thought it was a dope idea what I had come up with, I was happy to share it with him. He loved every date and praised me for being so thoughtful with the planning.

Now it’s your turn. With Christmas right around the corner, this would be a great way to surprise your boo whether for date night or simply for gift giving. I would love to hear how things work out should you happen to try the envelope idea. Happy Holidays!

FASHION FRIDAY || Celebrity Roundup – Around The Way Girls

VOTE VOTE VOTE

This week’s Celebrity Roundup includes some of our top 4 favorite looks of the week. The ladies below stepped out looking amazing and its up to you to vote on your absolute favorite. Tell a friend to tell a friend to vote as well.

ADRIENNE BAILON
ADRIENNE BAILON

Adrienne Bailon in a $171 House of CB dress

ASHANTI
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Ashanti in a $1,250 Michael Costello dress

KHLOE KARDASHIAN
Khloe Kardashian brings her sexy curves to Kourtney's baby shower

Khloe Kardashian in a $156 two-piece by Misha Collection

SELENA GOMEZ
SELENA GOMEZ

Selena Gomez in 2014 Versace suit

INTERVIEW || Ahyiana Angel Author of Preseason Love

 

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1. WHO IS AHYIANA ANGEL?
A daughter, sister, friend, and business woman who happens to be creative and extremely driven.

2. WHAT WAS THE INSPIRATION BEHIND YOUR CURRENT FRESH OFF OF THE PRESS BOOK, PRESEASON LOVE?
Real life. In the genre that I typically work in, contemporary fiction, many elements of the stories originate from a place of reality. My career, dating and living in the city were great sources of effortless inspiration for Preseason Love. I wanted to talk about the circumstances that I know many young women experience.

3. WHAT HAS YOUR EXPERIENCE BEEN LIKE, TELLING PIECES OF YOUR PERSONAL LIFE IN A BOOK FOR THE WORLD TO READ?
When I was working on my manuscript the words were flowing. I did not think much about people actually reading the content. Now that Preseason Love is on store shelves and people are consuming it at a rapid rate, I do get a bit shy about some of the scenes. Whether fact or fiction, it all originates from my mind so it is like inviting people into your world.

4. HOW MUCH OF AN IMPACT HAS YOUR PR BACKGROUND MADE ON YOUR CAREER AS AN AUTHOR AND WOULD YOU SUGGEST OTHERS LEARN THE PUBLIC RELATIONS INDUSTRY BEFORE LAUNCHING A BUSINESS?
I don’t think that it is mandatory to learn the business of PR before starting a business. However, I do think that PR knowledge can be helpful when it comes to marketing your business. It is always important in any business venture to be well versed in multiple areas that can help you grow your business, especially when you are just starting out since you will likely have to wear multiple hats. For me, having a background in PR made it easier to grasp certain concepts. It also gave me a bit of leverage with developing ways to promote Preseason Love.

5. WHO OR WHAT ARE SOME THINGS THAT KEEP YOU MOTIVATED?
My family keeps me motivated. I want to be able to expose them to things that they could never imagine. It is also important to me that I pave the way for the generations to come in my family. I want them to know that it is okay to dream big and chase your dreams. What seems impossible can certainly be possible.

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6. IF YOU COULD CHOOSE ONE QUOTE TO INSPIRE YOU FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE, WHAT WOULD IT BE?
Feel the fear, then do it anyway. I love this quote. I don’t know its origin, but it rings extremely true in so many circumstances that we face in life.

7. WHAT HAS YOUR BIGGEST OBSTACLE TO DATE, TAUGHT YOU ABOUT PERSEVERANCE?
My biggest obstacle has taught me that sometimes you have to take control of your situation, and give your all to make it work in your favor. Embarking on a career change to become a full-time writer was not an easy risk to take, but I knew that it was something that I really had a strong desire to do. Nothing was going to be given to me in making my transition, however, that did not stop my drive. Through determination and perseverance I managed to lock in a publishing deal.

8. WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO US 20 SOMETHINGS LOOKING TO DIVE INTO THE WRITING FIELD?
I would suggest that you research and learn your industry. Consume as much information as you can. Become familiar with some of the key newsletters and resources out there like BookBaby and Writer’s Digest. If you are working on a manuscript, especially if you plan to self-publish, invest in a good editor before you finalize your project. It will make a world of difference.

9. IF YOU WERE FORCED TO GET RID OF EVERY SINGLE ITEM YOU OWN AND ONLY KEEP 3 THINGS, WHAT ARE THE 3 THINGS YOU ABSOLUTELY COULDN’T LIVE WITHOUT?
This is hard but I would have to say my phone, computer and a satin scarf for my hair. LOL.

10. AS A CURATOR FOR TRAVEL NOIRE, WHAT IMPACT HAS TRAVELING HAD ON YOUR CAREER?
Traveling has really helped to expand my creativity. Observing different cultures, visiting foreign lands, and interacting with interesting people can spark ideas. It gives you insight and knowledge about people and circumstances that you can’t get from searching online. Being in traveling situations that tend to push you outside of your comfort zone helps me when I am challenging myself with my writing.

11. WHAT DESTINATION HAS BEEN YOUR MOST REWARDING TRAVELING EXPERIENCE AND WHY?
The most rewarding traveling experience was my visit to Paris. I was blessed to visit twice. I truly see now why so many people fall in love with the city. I found myself wandering through the streets daydreaming of being a local. One day I spent a few hours walking from Notre-Dame Cathedral to the Eiffel Tower. After taking in the sights along the River Seine, I made it to the Eiffel Tower just in time to see it sparkle at night. It was very surreal. I felt like I was in a dream and needed to pinch myself. I took some time to just sit and stare at the beauty. At that moment I reflected on how far I’d come. A year prior I would not have imagined standing in that moment.

12. WHAT CAN THE AUDIENCE LOOK FORWARD TO ON THIS JOURNEY OF PRESEASON LOVE WITH AHYIANA ANGEL?
Readers can look forward to a fast paced story with plenty of situations that they may identify with. The main character, Scottie Malveaux, is bold and sassy but she is also very career driven. You will have a court side seat during some of the challenging and best times of her life. You’ll be rooting for her to win. Readers thus far have fallen in love with Kari as well. Most noting that they can’t wait to find their own Kari, which I love!

13. HOW CAN THE READERS KEEP IN CONTACT WITH YOU?
You can stay connected with me via my website or my blog  I’m on Twitter @Ahyiana_Angel and Instagram @Ahyiana_Angel , as well as Facebook
. I just finished the first portion of the #PreseasonLove Tour with stops in Oakland, Los Angeles, New York, and Washington DC. After the new year I will be making additional stops in Houston, New Orleans, and Atlanta starting in early January. The details will be available on my website.

MONEY MONDAY || The Perfect Quotes To Keep You On Your Journey To Financial Freedom

As I move forward with my journey to financial freedom, I’ve noticed that as long as I keep reminders in front of me and make it a priority to stay on course, the discipline isn’t too hard. I remember telling myself for years that I wanted to be financially free. I would save a little here and there only to tap into that savings promising to replace it later. Long story short, it was never replaced. And the cycle continued. It wasn’t until April of this year that I attended a Women + Money Conference which put the spark back where it belong. Even after that I still didn’t take my money serious. The wake up call was when I lost a loved one late July. And wanting to tap into my emergency savings seemed like the smartest thing to do. The only problem was, there wasn’t one. I had grown accustom to spending my savings that I was down to nothing except the money I had in my checking account. I knew that was a serious problem and I never wanted to feel the feeling of defeat again. Although I had the money to cover my expenses, I knew it was imperative that from this moment forward I would work diligently to save and grow my savings account to a minimum amount. So I simply made the choice to spend less and save more. Once my savings is full, I will open another savings and allow the cycle of saving to continue. I can honestly say, I am proud of myself thus far. But it’s not an easy journey. I’m not sure what your money story is, but I thought I would share these financial quotes in hopes to motivate you on your journey. Enjoy.
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What are some of your favorite financial quotes?