Thanksgiving is days away and some of us are either too busy working to go home, couldn’t afford to or simply didn’t have a “home” to go to. Although it can bring up different emotions out of you, a common reminder around the holidays is the “I’m single” reminder. Yes, holidays such as Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years and Valentine’s Day are huge reminders that there is no “bae” in our lives. Depending on how your most recent relationship ended, now is not the time to sit around and feel sorry for yourself or your situation. I have been alone during the holidays on many occasions. Sometimes it was by choice and other times it wasn’t. I will admit, it is sometimes difficult to deal with but I have found several ways to make the best out of it.
Now when I say I am alone, this means no family around, no boyfriend or husband, no children and no pets. That pretty much qualifies me as the most single type of woman ever. Don’t feel sorry for me. I’m smiling. (wink). So as you can imagine, I’m pretty much experienced in this area. However, the holiday time off from my job has allowed me to have a little more control over my days and that for me is a big deal. Thanks to my expert like skills in “alone for the holidays syndrome” I have come up with ways that you too can enjoy this Thanksgiving, single and all.
– Spending time at a shelter or food bank will instantly pick up your spirits and force you to forget all that you are going through. You are put in the position to express love as well as receive love. The individuals that you serve are usually so full of life despite their circumstances. Not only is it a humbling experience but it is one that I encourage each of you to try. Find a shelter and/or food bank immediately and ask how you can volunteer. Volunteer positions fill up quickly and are usually filled on a first come, first serve basis. I have volunteered in the past and will be doing so again this year.
HANG OUT WITH FRIENDS
– If you feel that you weren’t lucky enough to get invited over for Thanksgiving dinner at any of your friends house, it just might be up to you to do the inviting. Reach out to your friends and associates and first ask if they are up to anything for Thanksgiving. Sometimes those we are around often simply do not know whether we have plans or not. By you reaching out to them, that in return could possibly lead to you receiving an invite. If that is the case, there just may be a single, handsome guy there alone as well. Hint. On the other hand, if any of them say no, invite them over for either a traditional style dinner, a movie night or put together plans to dine out. Two is sometimes better than none.
TAKE YOURSELF OUT
– You know that bucket list you’ve been dying to check off? What are you waiting for? Now is the perfect time for you to go over that list and put your plans in motion. Nothing motivates me more than to check things off of my list. Whether it’s dining alone, going to the movies, signing up for a dance class, booking a solo trip, there’s no excuse this time. Just do it.
PICK UP A SEASONAL JOB
– Last year, I put together a list of things I wanted to accomplish in 2014. Looking at the list, I planned a budget of how much additional money I would need. I also knew one of the quickest ways to make the extra money was to get a seasonal job. One of the sacrifices of having a second job would be missing the opportunity to go home during the holidays. Since this time of the year is the busiest thanks to black friday and unlimited Christmas sales, picking up a seasonal job wouldn’t be hard at all. I was happy to have extra money in my pocket and even happier reaching my early year goals.
All in all, Thanksgiving should be a time of gathering, love and gratitude. Although it is easier said than done, doing something about it is an even greater reward. No matter how you choose to spend the day, find some time to make the best of it.
WHAT ARE SOME WAYS YOU HAVE SPENT THE HOLIDAYS ALONE?
WHAT ARE YOUR PLANS FOR THANKSGIVING?