The Inevitables of Success – What People Think It Looks Like But What It Really Looks Like

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As young women that want nothing more than to be happy and successful, sometimes we can get a little distracted and blinded on what we think success looks like as well as the process of success. I think for each individual, our definition may vary but the process along the way remains the same for most. I’m here to tell you I’ve fallen more times that I’ve stood but I haven’t given up. Discouraged? Yes. Quitting? No. I want you to remind yourself always that hard work will pay off when the timing is right. Pay attention below to these 11 Inevitables of Success and ask yourself, how bad do I want this? Then go for it. No matter the dream, do what it takes to make it your reality.

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Late nights and early mornings can cause sleepless nights, you may forget to eat, you may even experience blood, sweat and tears. But in the end the pain is worth it when you can see the progress and feel the success.


Crying is a normal reaction to challenges we face. Every person handles situations differently but never should you feel less than because you find yourself getting emotional at times. Let it out girl. That’s what waterproof mascara is for.


Unfortunately we are all uncertain of who will be in our lives forever. The saying “Reason, Season or Lifetime” is true in every form of the phrase but it’s up to you to learn from every individual that you meet and grow from every situation you face.


Dream Killers happen to be those closest to us. Don’t ever let what someone else says about you defeat you or discourage you. They may try but when you believe in yourself to the fullest, those words will cut but put a band-aid on it and move forward. Those discouraging you will be the first asking for help when you make it.


We certainly cannot please everybody so why try? When you stay true to yourself and your passion, people that don’t see your vision will talk and some may even hate. It’s none of your business what others say about you because you know who you are.


We all have that gut feeling and we all have that second voice. The second voice has doubt, failure and negativity on the brain because fear is powerful. If you can find people or things that keep you encouraged, use them as much as possible.


Self doubt is a horrible disease. It can hinder you from living the life you ultimately want to live. The goal is to not feed into the doubt but to push past your limit and try things that scare you. Accomplishing small goals first will motivate you to tackle bigger goals. That in itself will slowly began to remove your self doubt.


You may find yourself in a lane that you necessarily didn’t think was for you. But we never know what we like or love unless we try new things. You may find yourself going crazy but it’s not what people call you, it’s what you answer to. -wink-


Nail biting, excessive scratching, drinking 4 coffees a day, those are habits that some people take on when getting put in uncomfortable situations. And if you’re breathing, you will always find yourself in uncomfortable situations. What is your weird habit?

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When you believe in yourself and your vision, money will come and go. But one thing that I can agree on is that you will sometimes invest more than you even have, more than you imagine and more than you will receive (in the beginning). Losing money isn’t to be frowned upon when you look at it as an investment in your business. Just make sure you do plenty of research and study on what is necessary to invest in, what can help you make your money back and where to save and spend.

It doesn’t stop here. Most, if not all of these will probably discourage you but one thing you must remember is, it will all be worth it.

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8 Responses to The Inevitables of Success – What People Think It Looks Like But What It Really Looks Like

  1. C says:
    Yes yes! I’ve been through each and every one of these things, some still going through. But it’s so close I can feel it so the craziest thing to do would be to give up and I have to keep reminding myself. Love this.


    • Kadri says:
      Yes, I agree 🙂 And the weirdest thing is that people who haven’t made any effort to get success, teach you how to do your job or business. They don’t have any clue what kind of risks you have taken or how does it feel to come out from comfort zone and they say, you are just lucky and you don’t have problems like they have.. it pisses me off 😀
      If I had listened my friends or family, I would be unhappy and probably at the same place where I was 10 years ago.
      Keep going and all the best! 🙂
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